When you first quit drinking, knowing what to do with yourself is hard.
You’ve just taken away the ONE thing that allowed you to relax or manage hard times (which is false because alcohol actually makes anxiety worse). Now you feel awkward doing the most basic activities.
You might as well have two left feet.
Where do you put all this energy? How do you handle life now? What are you supposed to do with yourself at 6 PM on a Friday when your buddies are all heading to happy hour?
On top of that, you don’t feel good. Your mood is low. Nothing seems interesting.
I get it.
And I’ve been there! I know the stress of sitting on the couch when your friends are all out at the bar feeling jittery and crazy, like if I continue to sit on the couch and not be at happy hour, I will jump out of my skin.
There is something you can do that will be helpful on a multitude of levels. It might sound horrible to you now, but hear me out.
You can exercise.
- Why Exercise is Crucial To Your Recovery
- Exercise and Sobriety: Getting Started
- The Future of Fitness and Recovery
Why Exercise is Crucial To Your Recovery
Most of us know that we should exercise to live a healthy lifestyle. Yet, only about 20% of American adults actually get the right amount.
We’re too sedentary.
For people in early recovery, exercise is especially important. And by exercise, I certainly do not mean you have to take up marathon training or hot yoga.
I’m speaking about exercise at the most basic level – movement, getting your heart rate up, and doing something to get your body going.
That’s your starting place, and here’s why it’s so important.
1. Exercise Improves Your Mental Health
The type of exercise doesn’t matter all that much. It can be aerobic, yoga, or strength training.
Any exercise is going to work wonders for your brain. It does this by promoting changes in your brain, including neural growth, reduced inflammation, and new activity patterns that promote a feeling of calm and well-being.
This is especially important for recovering heavy drinkers as alcohol does a lot of damage to your brain that exercise can help you start repairing.
Exercise releases endorphins, amazing feel-good chemicals, into your brain.
You may have heard the term “runner’s high” before. That’s what it’s referring to. If you’ve ever been into fitness or are currently, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Ever finish a workout and feel tremendously clear-headed and buoyant? That’s your endorphins kicking in.
If you’re dealing with issues like depression or anxiety, which most of us are if we were self-medicating with booze, this is one way to naturally feel better.
Additional benefits of exercising include:
Want to know more about the ways exercise benefits your mental health and brain? Check out this Ted Talk:
2. Exercise Helps You Find Healthier Friendships
So many people I speak to in recovery tell me the same thing. They feel like they don’t have any friends. They avoid social settings because they don’t want to feel tempted to drink. Maybe they’ve fallen out with their old drinking buddies.
Human beings are social creatures, whether we like it or not, and loneliness is a big factor in what drives people to relapse.
Where are we supposed to find new sober friends?
Joining a gym or starting a new program (like CrossFit or yoga) is an excellent way to get out of the house and be around people, all while doing something good for yourself. Eventually, you’ll start recognizing the regulars in your class and form bonds with people living a lifestyle more suited to your sobriety goals.
It might sound silly, but when I first stopped drinking I did not know what people did for fun if they didn’t drink.
My social world was extremely limited to ladies’ nights at the bar or boozy brunches on the weekend. It did not occur to me that people got together to enjoy other kinds of activities.
Shocking, I know!
3. Exercise Will Help You Cope With Difficult Times
In my previous life, I was a teacher working in extremely high-stress conditions. I was newly married and living in a foreign country, constantly oscillating between overstimulation and crippling culture shock.
My entire life felt like a pendulum that would not stop swinging.
So I drank.
I drank a lot before then, but especially at that time. Alcohol and cigarettes were how I coped with my life. In fact, I had no idea (or belief) that I could manage any of it without my beloved crutches.
Somebody cut me off in traffic (an everyday occurrence here)? Smoke when I get home. Get home from work feeling like I’ve been hit by a Mac truck? Smoke and drink until I pass out.
I had to reteach myself how to function again.
Exercise is a way to channel that energy. Instead of downing half a liter of whiskey, pick up some dumbbells or a jump rope and get it out of your system.
4. Exercise Gives You Something To Do
I can’t count the number of times I gave up on quitting smoking or drinking (or both) because I was bored.
Occasionally, I would find something interesting on Netflix to binge my way through a few rough days. But that’s a temporary solution. You can’t stream your way out of alcoholism.
Part of my heavy drinking meant that I was constantly burning bridges – a social arsonist if you will.
Oftentimes, that would be the catalyst for my trying to quit.
My friends didn’t want to hang around me. I’d ruined my romantic relationships. I had nothing to do or any real identity outside of work.
And I hated my job, so imagine building an entire identity around something like that.
Exercise fills the time, and some days, that’s all you really need to get from one morning to the next without drinking. It’s something to do that is actually good for you.
5. Exercise Heals Your Brain
Much of the damage can be healed with proper intervention like consistent exercise.
The gray and white matter you’ve been shrinking with the nightly rounds of beers at the pub will start to increase. Dopamine receptors that closed in response to a flood of boosted dopamine from alcohol will open up again.
According to Harvard Medical School, exercise has the ability to, “reduce insulin resistance, reduce inflammation, and stimulate the release of growth factors—chemicals in the brain that affect the health of brain cells, the growth of new blood vessels in the brain, and even the abundance and survival of new brain cells.”
That’s great news for the recently sober and foggy-brained among us. If you’re feeling out of sorts, with time, a bit of effort, and continued abstinence from alcohol, you’ll get your mental faculties back.
Interested in exploring this topic further? Check out this video:
Exercise and Sobriety: Getting Started
I know what some of you might be thinking right now. “Me? Exercise? I’m out of shape and wouldn’t know what to do at a gym!”
I started a rigorous, month-long boot camp during my first four-month stint at sobriety. One week I was pounding 7-9 cider drafts every night and chain-smoking a pack and a half of cigarettes. The next, I was attempting to run sprints across a football stadium and do burpees.
I could do neither.
After two weeks, I was so sick I had to quit. I bit off more than I could chew and failed as a result.
You can take a 20-minute walk daily and reap all the benefits mentioned in this article.
I’ve been consistently working out for about five months and still do pushups on my knees. But you know what? I’m getting better at them, I feel stronger, and I’ll be doing regular push-ups in no time.
Even if I do something as simple as a 10-minute easy pilates routine on YouTube, I notice a difference in my body and mood. I feel looser, taller, and more alert. Even dancing to music you like in your living room will get the endorphins going.
My point is that you don’t have to become a gym junkie to get your exercise in. You just need to move your body.
You don’t have to figure this out on your own.
The Future of Fitness and Recovery
What I find particularly inspiring is the number of people who are out there trying to give folks in recovery access to fitness because it has been so pivotal to their own success story.
In Reno, Nevada, a recovering addict turned fitness enthusiast, Krissy Mae Cagney opened her own gym with the hope of helping other addicts. Black Iron Gym gives away 100 free memberships to recovering addicts who have been sober from anywhere between one day and five years.
There is a national nonprofit called The Phoenix which offers free gym memberships, equipment, and training to recovering addicts. The only requirement is that you are sober for at least 48 hours.
Beyond fitness, The Phoenix offers a supportive and safe environment for people who are trying to restart their lives. They also offer social events to help their members form healthy relationships with other people in the recovery community.
These are the kinds of places and communities that can make or break a person’s recovery prospects.
So if you’re serious about sobriety, consider incorporating exercise into your daily routine. It’s not a magic bullet solution, but it can be a wonderful starting point- a foundation to build your new, sober life on.
And if you want to learn more about The Phoenix, check out this video: