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Sober and Bored? Here’s What To Do About It

Are you reading this right now because you got sober recently and feel so bored you might spontaneously combust… or worse…drink?

You are not alone, my friend.

Getting sober is like learning to walk again after a terrible accident. You should be able to go about living your life without drinking alcohol, but you feel utterly useless and have no idea what to do with yourself.

I mean, look at all this TIME you have!

The hours you used to devote to drinking and recovering from drinking have to be filled now with… well who knows what?

The more you think about it, the more it annoys you, which is unfortunate because you’re already feeling rather annoyed these days.

Let’s help you get started, shall we?

Have no fear! I’ve been where you are, as have thousands of other sober people who had to learn to have a life again after sobriety.

Reasons You Might Feel Bored in Sobriety

It’s pretty normal to reduce the entire experience of boredom in sobriety to missing alcohol and believing that getting drunk is the primary way you (and everyone else) have fun.

In fact, when you first quit, it feels like everyone in the world is out getting drunk but you. The FOMO can be maddening.

But what if there is a physiological reason contributing to your feelings?

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Reasons you feel bored in sobriety

Alcohol artificially boosts serotonin and dopamine in your brain.

This is important to remember when thinking about boredom. First, let’s revisit some terminology.

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter responsible for feelings of happiness, well-being, and pleasure. It is also responsible for moderating moods and emotions. Serotonin depletion can cause feelings of sadness, anxiety, and irritability.

Dopamine is another neurotransmitter that is responsible for feelings of pleasure and happiness. It is also responsible for regulating movement and emotional response. Dopamine depletion can cause feelings of apathy, boredom, and lack of motivation.

Serotonin and Dopamine Depletion in Early Sobriety

You create an imbalance when you use alcohol (or any substance) to artificially boost serotonin and dopamine levels in your brain.

That is why long-term, heavy alcohol has such a negative impact on the brain. Alcohol can produce 2 to 10 times more dopamine in the brain than natural rewards. So now, you’ve got two big problems on your hand:

  1. Your brain is going to produce less dopamine to balance out the artificial boost you give it every time you drink, and
  2. Natural rewards now pale in comparison to the artificial rewards that alcohol gives you.

So it’s not that sobriety is inherently boring; it’s that your serotonin and dopamine levels are now very low. When serotonin and dopamine levels are low, we become less motivated and less interested in our surroundings. This can lead to feelings of boredom and apathy.

It’s why nothing seems fun or interesting, and you struggle to rally the motivation to have a good time.

Your brain needs time to recover.

The good news is that your brain can adjust and restore balance to your internal world. The longer you stay away from alcohol and give your brain some much-needed TLC, the less you’ll feel like life is dull and uninteresting.

Alcohol robs you of the ability to feel naturally motivated and inspired. Those feelings don’t come back immediately when you quit.

It takes time.

But it is helpful to be able to say, “I know life feels boring now, but it’s because my brain is taking time to heal. It’s not always going to feel like this.”

Now that you know the chemical reason for your boredom, let’s explore ways you can proactively work against it.

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it takes time for your brain to adjust to sobriety

Being sober is so boring because your life revolves around alcohol.

Let’s address another reason life without alcohol feels boring. If you’ve created an entire social life around drinking, it is natural to be afraid of life without it.

When I was a heavy drinker, everything involved alcohol. If I was sad, I drank alcohol to feel better. If I was hanging out with friends, we were getting drunk. Did I have a stressful day at work? I drank alcohol.

My friends and I got together for happy hours after work. On the weekend, we went to bars and clubs. During the day, there were all-inclusive brunches. It all felt normal, even the terrible parts like awful hangovers and hangxiety.

When you remove alcohol from your life, you free up all the time you spent drinking and recovering from drinking. If you ever sit down to do that math, you will shock yourself with how much time went towards drinking.

It’s hard to fill that time, especially when dealing with alcohol cravings and triggers.

Alcohol didn’t make life fun. It just made you not care.

When I drank alcohol, I could (and did) sit and do nothing for hours.

My husband and I would plop down on our balcony drinking Jack and Sprite, chain-smoking cigarettes, and scrolling on our phones. Fun, right?

Sometimes we would watch a show, but even that become untenable for me after a couple of drinks because I did not have the attention span for it.

I used to love going to bars for hours. I’d sit around a table with friends, ordering rounds, talking shit. It was fun!

Or was it?

I have gone to bars with people I genuinely like as a sober person, and I don’t stay for longer than an hour or two if nothing is happening.

Why? Because it is boring!

Getting drunk did not magically change the dynamics of that situation. It made me not care. We were all just sitting around and getting drunk, perfectly content to not really do anything together.

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Alcohol makes you not care if something is truly fun

Sobriety pulls back the veil on your social life.

I realized that sobriety was not fundamentally boring. Alcohol merely blurred my perception of social situations.

I can go to a party where people play games and drink and enjoy myself. Why? Because the games are fun!

Sobriety forces you to re-examine your social life in ways that are uncomfortable. In the absence of alcohol, do you even like talking to your “friends”?

My social circle changed when I got sober because I realized that many of my relationships were based on getting drunk together, and that was it.

Once I realized that I had to rediscover what fun meant to me.

8 Tips For Overcoming Boredom in Sobriety

Once you understand that your brain needs to recover and regain balance, it’s time to start inserting some joy back into your world. This can be a daunting task.

It is normal to have no idea where to start. That’s why I’ve compiled some strategies for tackling boredom in sobriety so that you can reduce your relapse risk and learn to enjoy life without alcohol.

1. Get your Mindset Right

Sobriety is a major lifestyle change. There is an initial learning curve. It’s important to have the right mindset about sobriety.

Don’t get down on yourself because you can’t get wasted at the bar with your friends anymore. You don’t want to fall down that rabbit hole. 

Romanticizing alcohol is a terrible thing to do to yourself. 

Stay positive. If you are walking around saying that there’s nothing to do and everything about sobriety is boring and terrible, you are condemning yourself to misery. 

Remember, it’s not that sobriety is terrible, but that your brain is trying to grapple with the sudden loss of dopamine. Think of it as an injury. Just like you would be patient and gentle with a broken leg, you gotta give your brain the same tenderness.

That being said, drinking FOMO is real and must be dealt with. Sometimes admitting the truth to yourself is the first step. 

Related Post: Why Quitting Alcohol Can Feel Like Grief

Be Honest with Yourself and Others

It’s perfectly okay to say, “Hey, I’m in a weird spot right now.” 

On the one hand, you have no idea what you’re supposed to do with yourself. A lot of people don’t feel good when they first get sober so it’s totally understandable if your feelings are all over the place.

And on top of all of that?

You’re lonely.

Your friends are out getting drunk, same as they always do. Meanwhile, you’re at home wondering how many days it would take someone to find your body after you’ve choked on those peanut M&M’s you’ve been knocking back during your latest Netflix binge. 

This is where taking action becomes critically important.

Things have to change.

Nothing changes if nothing changes. It is often the case that we drink too much to escape lives that we don’t enjoy. Those things do not miraculously improve just because we give up alcohol.

Sure, some things get better.

We don’t have to deal with horrible hangovers or hangxiety. There’s no more bad, drunk behavior.

But the fundamentals of our lives will pretty much stay unchanged until we actively try to improve them.

So now you’re stuck dealing with them without that artificial dopamine boost you’ve become so reliant on.

That’s HARD, my friend.

But if you’re committed to working through it, here are some things you can do to open up your world a little bit and work through this difficult time.

2. Find a hobby

Preferably one that keeps your hands busy (don’t be gross). 

There are a few reasons for this:

  1. Finding something to do and care about helps create meaning in our lives, something you might desperately need at the moment. 
  2. Engaging in hobbies that have you DOING something is a fantastic way to temporarily escape the raging firestorm in your brain. 

Hobbies can quickly turn into a tool for mindfulness. Let’s say you decide you want to learn to knit. You’ve already picked out a name for your Etsy shop. It’s called Dude Scarves and it’s going to be great!

Learning a new skill is going to take 100% of your undivided attention. The time you spend learning to knit is time you are NOT spending thinking about how much you want to drink. 

paint brushes and pots to fight boredom in sobriety
hobbies help combat feeling sober and bored

Eventually, you’ll become good enough that you can get lost in it. You’ll lose time and feel much calmer and refreshed after you’re finished. Your brain will get a refreshing boost from doing something creative. Things get a tiny bit better.

Obviously, it does not have to be knitting. Take up baking, woodwork, designing stickers – anything hands-on is a winner!

Finding something to get you out of this boring, sober lull is the point. 

Getting a new hobby also opens up social opportunities. You can take classes or join creative groups and hang out with fellow knitters and sticker makers. 

Additionally, you’ll get the natural high of having created something with your own two hands. That’s a major boost to your mental health. 

How to Choose a Hobby

Choosing a new hobby to occupy your time is not always easy. It may require a bit of soul-searching, especially when your motivation is at historically low levels.

What did you enjoy doing before drinking came around and took over your social life? If you must dig WAY back into childhood for this answer, then do that. 

Before I started drinking too much, I loved to write. It was my passion. I kept a notebook and pen beside my bed in case I woke up in the middle of the night with a brilliant song lyric or poem. 

That is the activity I’ve buried my energy into since quitting. 

I would totally love to learn to knit, or DIY refurbish a chair like they do on Flea Market Flip, but for now, I mostly stick to writing and figuring out why my toddler is mad at me. 

What did you like to do? Don’t worry if it’s cool or age-appropriate. If the internet has shown us anything, it’s that neither matters. 

It doesn’t even have to be crafty. 

Have you always wanted to learn to dance salsa? Get on Google, find a class, and make it happen. Plus, you might meet some cool people and that’s always a double win. 

3. Take a fitness class or go to the gym. 

Not only will the exercise help your physical and mental health, but it’s a fabulously healthy cure for sobriety boredom. 

Depending on where you live, various options are available to you. Spin class, yoga, pilates, CrossFit, Zumba, Bootcamp. 

Pick something and try it. If you don’t love it, try something else. 

I’m a fan of Class Pass because it allows you to try out several different gyms and classes without having to make a commitment to any of them. 

A word of caution: to the greatest extent possible, get out of the house for this part. If money is an issue, check out community centers or any yoga-by-donation events. 

Yes, you could just hop on YouTube and pick an exercise and it WOULD help, but you do need to force yourself to get out of the house whenever possible. 

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Use exercise to fight boredom in sobriety

4. Go on a field trip.

If you have a willing friend or family member, take them along. If not, that’s cool too. 

I found myself planning little outings when I got sober because I needed to figure out what it meant to have fun again. 

So I went to shows at the local performing arts center. I dragged my husband to the zoo and aquarium. Is a new museum opening up within driving distance? We were there. 

When you get sober, you realize there is an entire daytime pulse in your city or town that you never really felt before. Things that people do during that day that don’t involve recovering or boozy brunch. 

Do you know the vibe you get when you travel to a new place? There is nothing like experiencing a brand new city or country. Try to tap into that energy for your local area.

5. Get out in nature. 

Whether going for a walk in your neighborhood, visiting a park, or tackling a nature trail on foot or bike, find something to do to get fresh air. 

We are stressed-out, overstimulated, tech-obsessed creatures. Pile on some sobriety struggle, and it’s a recipe for madness. 

sober people hiking in the woods
nature to help combat feeling bored and sober

Getting outside and communing with nature is scientifically proven to reduce stress and improve mental health and cognitive function in both kids and adults. 

Start with going for walks for 10-15 minutes every day. Pursue outdoor activities like kayaking or fishing. Go camping. 

You will feel better. If nothing else, it will give you a much-needed reset. 

6. Start journaling.

I’ve included this separate from hobbies because I don’t believe that journaling is a hobby. I’d classify it more as a tool. 

It’s something I do in addition to my own creative writing. 

journaling on paper to combat boredom
journaling to fight feeling bored when you’re sober

Unloading some thoughts onto the page can help you figure out what you’re actually feeling. Are you bored? Or are you lonely? Depressed? A combination of all three?

You have to understand what you’re feeling and WHY you’re feeling this way in order to change it. Journaling helps you do that. 

It also opens up space to approach your internal world differently. One of the biggest impediments to my sobriety during my relapse days was my inability to avoid getting consumed by emotions. 

I over-identified with every negative feeling in my body. 

I’m sad. I’m miserable. I don’t see how any of this gets better.  

These feelings were paralyzing. But I didn’t know what to do with them besides feel them. And the more I felt them, the more intense and blinding they would get. 

How journaling helps beyond boredom. 

Journaling allowed me to step outside of my emotions. I could pour my heart out and every irrational thought onto the pages. 

When I was finished, it was like someone had hit the refresh button on my brain. The intensity dimmed. I could go back and re-read what I wrote and approach it from the perspective of an outside observer. 

Oh, okay. I keep going on and on about Friend X who didn’t invite me to this event. And I’m really mad about Event Y. There’s clearly something going on there. What can I do to fix this? If nothing, how can I move past it? 

When you begin to view your negative thoughts and feelings as problems to be solved, rather than the embodiment of who you actually are, you liberate yourself. 

It’s like figuring out how to play the guitar. It’s awkward, slow-going, and hurts like hell, but you’re committed to figuring it out. So you deal with the unglamorous parts until you’re able to sweetly serenade the masses with your rendition of Wonderwall.

7. Consider therapy.

Aside from journaling, talk therapy is an important, oftentimes critical tool for unpacking your feelings.

After years of burying your feelings in alcohol, it’s hard to do this. Really hard.

Having a professional on your team guiding you through it can help you navigate things in healthy ways while providing you with tools to manage the process without drinking.

Access should not be a barrier to help.

Soberish is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp. If you have tried (and failed) to find a therapist with the knowledge and background to help you navigate your specific issues, try BetterHelp. Learn more about my counseling journey with BetterHelp or visit their website below.

8. Volunteer

One of the best things you can do for yourself when you’re feeling bored in sobriety is to find a way to serve others.

Volunteer at your local shelter or thrift store. Sign up to do some work in your community garden.

Are humans not your thing?

Volunteer at the local Humane Society to walk dogs or pet cats.

sober woman volunteering at clothes donation
volunteer when you are sober and bored

Volunteering is a great way to reconnect to your community. Helping others actually boosts our own mental health and feelings of self-worth. AND, it helps us to become less self-absorbed which, quite frankly, a lot of us are.

If you have the time, sign on to a longer-term project like helping with this year’s charity bake sale or the big 5K race your city holds yearly. You’ll get a chance to meet new people and be a part of something positive.

If nothing else, it starts to chip away at any notion you might have that you’re unworthy.

Final Note on Feeling Bored in Sobriety

Whether your sobriety has you wallowing in boredom or self-pity, please know that it will get better. Even if you have no idea HOW things can change, trust the process and keep working on it.

Feeling bored, sad, lonely, or anxious about something are all very human things to feel. You’ll never entirely escape them.

Sure, you tried to do that with drinking, but look where that got you!

So now comes the arduous task of learning how to manage the tough stuff without a chemical crutch like alcohol.

This is the part where you figure out how to enjoy life without a little something extra to help loosen you up.

And you know what?

It’s great!

Even if you don’t see it now. Maybe you think I’m full of shit. I certainly would have if I’d read this article five years ago.

But I PROMISE you, if you keep moving forward, things in your brain will start to click. Dark clouds will go away. And one day it will occur to you that you’re actually happy and enjoying your life.

In the meantime, the Soberish community is here to support you and help you get there.

sober woman is bored in a cafe

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31 Comments

  1. I was struggling greatly with the physical ailments of drinking, namely the weight gain, drinker’s remorse anxiety, the all-day hangovers, and the restlessness and exhaustion from never getting solid sleep thanks to brutal acid reflux.

    I decided to quit drinking a few days before Christmas and to use my New Year’s resolution as an excuse for my drinking buddies, who to this day still don’t understand why I quit and have even come across as resentful towards me, like they think b/c I quit that I’m judging them. I sincerely am not judging them. I just tell them why I quit (when they ask), and I think their insecurities get triggered. This is when they start joking that I must have gotten a DUI… to make themselves feel better, I suppose.

    Many of the bar relationships I had have all but fractured. When I visit the one person I still meet up with regularly, I just simply don’t drink while he does. I stick with diet sodas, red bulls, and I’ll get some wings or something.

    But my boredom at home is bad and getting worse. I have no desire to drink again b/c, frankly, the bad outweighs the good. But with it being 110 degrees outside now (and over or near 100 for 4-5 months out of the year), spending time outside just isn’t an option for me. When I do spend time outside, it’s to go skiing. But that’s quite a drive from where I live, is only possible 3 months a year, and is getting quite expensive even just going a few times a year.

    Not drinking led to marijuana use. Smoking pot cured everything for me for a while. It’s absolutely what I want to do, but the anxiety it caused about random testing at work defeated the purpose of taking it, so I quit that too after only a couple weeks. I mean, what’s the point then, right?

    Often times, I’ll be at work daydreaming about wanting to go home. But, on my way home, I’ll ponder what on earth I’m gonna do at home for 6 hours all by myself. Once home, now I can’t wait to go back to work. It’s a vicious cycle.

    Whatever you do, please don’t reply with the suggestion to seek counseling. That is such a cop-out by people who think they’re helping and just can’t admit that they don’t have an answer b/c there isn’t one. All therapy does is enrich people who can’t help. And I already have a dog if I just wanted someone to listen to my problems.

    I also have a side business, and that has kept me busy most days. But the problem with working so hard on the weekend is that you feel burnt out going back to your “real job” on Monday.

    Truth is, there is no cure for this. We just have to accept that substance abuse was a choice we made and we have to deal with the consequences of quitting. Something I’ve done to help curb the cravings to be bad is:
    • I think a lot about what the consequences would be if I didn’t quit;
    • I think a lot about how the drinker’s remorse makes me feel so guilty and how I don’t want to let myself down like that b/c that’s worse than the boredom;
    • I’ve made a conscious effort to not “screw over Tomorrow Gil”. What I mean by that is, if “Today Gil” doesn’t drink, then “Tomorrow Gil” won’t have a hangover, get a DUI, be fat, etc.

    Then, I came onto this site and see so many people with similar experiences and feelings. The suggestion to someone to seek counseling really irritated me, but I have to admit, seeing so many people feel the same way about this has given me a bit of a serotonin boost. I guess the old adage is true: There’s safety in numbers.

  2. This really helped I hadn’t thought of the chemical connection and that makes sense and knowing these feeling will get better is a relief cos they are not great. I’m quite introverted so relearning to socialise is challenging. I’m 3 months in and the anxiety is really hard. I go home earlier and I assume everyone’s having more fun but I still love my friends even if i worry they love me a little less now I”m sober. I’m forced to deal with the emotions rather than bury them which I know deep down is better. It’s like relearning to have fun again, but actually the longer I’m sober the more supportive other people are of it. What I do love is that today I would normally have been broken by a hangover, snapping at my family, worrying about what I’ve said and did last night, checking my face for damage and obsessing about how I’m ruining my health. Instead I’m drinking coffee, listening to the birdsong and planning my day. That’s got to be an improvement.

  3. The problem is that I don’t have time. I didn’t give up all my old hobbies to drink while staring at the wall all night. I started drinking because I literally never have free time – maybe five minutes at a stretch, certainly not long enough to play my guitar or go for a hike. Drinking made hours of endless chores and projects bearable, and deadened my awareness of the fact that no matter how much I accomplish and how much I deprive myself of sleep to get “everything” done, I’m going to have to do it all over again tomorrow. I used to love reading and now, at best, I only get to read five pages in one day. And that started months and months before I started drinking, so it’s not the alcohol that made it that way. It made it bearable though. I want to stop drinking but without it there literally is nothing for me to enjoy except sleeping.

  4. Day 1, walked to the mailbox which occupied about 1-min. of my time…

    Threw some laundry in the washing machine, occupied about 5-min. of my time…

    Otherwise, just staring at the walls and pacing the floors of this empty home…

  5. Thank you for this article it had really helped, i decided before Xmas 2021 I was going to take a break on wine and loose some weight and get healthy, I’m only a few days in but feel amazing. Im awaiting a hip replacement so I’m home a lot at the moment, during the day it’s fine I keep busy but the evenings are slow and boring. I drank to help with to sleep so I’m hoping this improves . It’s nice to know I’m not alone and can’t wait to be able to walk my dogs again to feel normal.

    1. You’re definitely not alone! It’s so hard being homebound when you’re trying to find healthy distractions. Wishing you luck and a speedy recovery once that hip replacement comes through!

  6. The problem is that drinking never took over my life in that way. Most weekends I got out and about sober for at least one day. I always exercised in the morning before my first drink. And even when I was drinking, it wasn’t like I just sat there and stared at the wall. I still managed to read, watch movies, write, play music and participate in my other hobbies.

    Giving up drinking hasn’t left me with a void of time to fill. It’s just made everything grey and lifeless. Even the things I only ever did sober are unbearable now.

    1. I can really relate to what you’re saying here. I DID get to the point in my addiction where it took over my life and I got sober and did the 12 step recovery thing 100% for 3 years.

      I decided to try occasional using about a year ago and have had zero problems so far. It’s been infrequent and my life is completely different now than it was before I got sober but my therapist wanted me to try an upcoming break without using for fun like I had planned and I was bored to tears.

      It’s these infrequent breaks that allow me to successfully navigate and manage my life and all of the joys and responsibilities. It IS my hobby and my me time.

      I truly don’t see the harm in doing it recreationally the same way other people take actual vacations. I just take vacations in my own head lol.

  7. Hi! Sober for 12 days now…struggling with all the floods of emotions and how bored i feel. I now realize how MUCH alcohol was part of everything i did and how much time I floated around in the Sea of Drunk! Going out to eat doesn’t feel appealing because when we went out it usually involved drinks. Friday & Saturday was the big days full of drink so weekends have lost their fun. I know it will pass and deep down I KNOW with every bone in my body that I don’t want to go back to drinking but DAMN it is hard! That is ALL I think about! Lol.
    At night I thank my team-Angels, God, the Universe and anyone else and everyone out there praying for me to stay on track because I made it through another day! I believe it Does get better! So here i am <3

  8. Thank you for this article. I am slightly different in the sense it has been 2 and a half years since I stopped using and it wasn’t alcohol. I am just finding this issue of boredom a real problem in my life. Shouldn’t this be past by now? I never really took the time after stopping to really work through my root cause of addiction nor what I wanted to do with my life afterwards. I just kept busy with work. This no longer does the trick.

  9. Nice Article. I’m not sure what I want. I do know that drinking cures my boredom. I have ADHD and RHA. So the alcohol helps me to sit down. But I found myself drinking in bed to rest my body. I have plenty to do as a single Mom who lives with her elderly Mother. So my goal is to put the bottle down to become a more productive person. Thanks for your article.

  10. I got my 5 month chip last Tuesday and I feel great. I enjoyed this article and look forward to more. What I found myself doing early on was to look up, and write down new recipes to try. And I have tried a few. I am also looking into baking. Can’t seem to get a sour dough starter to last lol. Whether it’s good or bad, i have noticed an uptick in my shopping, nothing crazy, but nothing that was really truly needed. Getting full time hours at work helped too. And going to aa meetings. I developed a weekly routine where I see one of my good friends and my sponsor of sorts, and we have dinner and play a game before a meeting. Having a routine seems to help, and when I have to work and miss it, I notice, in a good way. Stay sober, stay happy and stay well everyone 😊

  11. My problem is weed makes everything better i love it its wonderful execpt i cant have a good job so i quit smokeing ended up a constant drunk traded the one i loved for something much worse trying to just have a day in between drinking need better but not ready but damn it

    1. Hey, Bob! Thanks for sharing this. It sounds like you’re using weed and alcohol to manage your life in a way, and it’s not working out. Have you thought about counseling or other support system?

  12. Thank you so much for this article. I have been sober for 6 weeks, mainly due to health and the weight it has put on. I have been working from home since March 17th (COVID) and will be here until 2021. I work the News Desk for a TV station and it is brutal at times. I miss going into the office. Also, my husband works evenings so now I am truly bored. Not a problem during the day, but bored and lonely in the evening. So, between being on a restrictive diet that does NOT include alcohol or popcorn, it has made me super emotional at times and bored. I am a Christian and love reading scripture to re-direct my mindset. I know this abstinence is worth it, on all levels, I won’t allow boredom to overcome me. 🙂

  13. I’m newly sober (6 days) and I’m STRUGGLING with boredom. I always knew alcohol took up a lot of time in my life, but my mind has been blank about what to fill it with. These are absolutely awesome ideas and i appreciate knowing that I’m not the only dealing with these new parts of sobriety.

  14. Decided to read this article , wanted to remind myself of the early days of sobriety. I am sober 14 years this New Years! I didn’t think I could go 14 minutes without a drink. I was bored yet filled with anxiety. I had to make a step by step list and follow it through out the day because I couldn’t even get out of bed. With Gods help and a forgiving family, here I am clean and sober and happier than ever. Getting and staying sober is one of the hardest thing’s you’ll ever do. But it is so worth it !

  15. Boredom is a huge issue. Even when my husband and I are out with friends or business events, the wine dials down my boredom and impatience with the mindless conversations. Dinner and television after a long day is extremely boring. A glass of wine or more helps with that. It’s easy to say turn off the TV, but my husband finds this TV time as an unwinding time. I’m learning to knit. Reading books and I’m still bored to tears. Wine helps .
    Boredom is huge. Thank you for this article. I thought I was the only person who drank because I was bored.

    1. Hi Connie! Oh you’re definitely not alone! You know the more I found things to do that made me feel like I had some kind of purpose, the less bored I became. I also have a two year old so boredom is a luxury I haven’t had in a while lol. I found a lot of times I used drinking to just opt out of thinking altogether. I didn’t want to do anything and didn’t want to not be doing anything either.

      1. Couldn’t have been said better! Don’t want to do anything and don’t want to do nothing!! Three weeks sober now. I find my self wanting something to fill my time so bad. Millions of ideas go through my head but it’s rare one actually holds my attention enough to follow through. Reading a lot of posts here seems to help a lot. Thanks for the article

        1. You’re so welcome! The good news is that what you’re feeling does pass eventually but it is a real pain in the ass to deal with in the early days. You’ve got this!

      2. You nailed it when you said that you didn’t want to do anything and didn’t want to not be doing anything either.
        That’s exactly how I felt every single day and exactly how I loved my life. It’s like I wanted everything and nothing at all.

  16. I cannot thank you enough for this article. I would have celebrated 2 years this coming November, but picked up last weekend because I was feeling bored, lonely, and really sorry for myself. Not only am I thankful for the ideas, but also to know I am not alone in this feeling.

    Thank you!

    1. You’re welcome! I’ve had a couple relapses in my past where I cannot for the life of me figure out why I drank. I was bored and just decided one day and then back to the binge I went. It happens to the best of us. Are you back on sobriety now?

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