Your Sobriety Roadmap and Resource Center

Whether you’re here to change your relationships with alcohol, quit drinking temporarily, or want to get sober long-term, it can be hard to know where to start. Browsing a website with hundreds of articles can be overwhelming. 

Where do you start? 

Maybe you find an article that inspires you, but you don’t know where to go next. 

That’s why I created this resource page – The Sobriety Roadmap and Resource Center. My aim here is to give you an easy way to navigate through the many resources on Soberish that are designed to help you get and stay sober.

Bookmark this page and work through the articles and resources at your own pace. And, of course, if you want to connect with people on a similar journey, send a request to join the Soberish Private Facebook Group.

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Soberish Sobriety Roadmap and Resource Center

Thinking About Sobriety

If you’re in the decision phase of this journey, are questioning your drinking habits, or need a little more information and inspiration to take the plunge, these articles are a great place to start.

If you’re at the questioning phase of your relationship with alcohol, these resources will be a big help. We’ll explore what it means to have a drinking problem, dispel some common myths, and give you a framework for understanding your own drinking habits.

Deciding To Quit Drinking

Once you pass the decision phase, you enter into action mode. This is the time you decide, “I’m really going to do this.”

But how? Where do you start? What’s it going to be like? How do you handle your life (and, well, everything) without drinking?

The answer, cliché as it may be, is one day at a time.

If you’re staring down day one or even week one, these resources can help you manage your expectations and provide some guidance about what to do in the early days when cravings and emotions are running high and unpredictable.

The following resources were created with early sobriety in mind.

The idea of quitting drinking can be super scary. Sometimes hearing other people’s perspectives and getting an idea about what to expect ahead of time helps mitigate those fears.

These articles walk you through what it’s like to quit drinking.

The first article in this list is one of the most important. It is a step-by-step guide for how to quit drinking based on 7+ years of sobriety and research.

I recommend starting there and then continuing on.

Alcohol does a lot of wacky things to our brains and moods that can become more pronounced in the immediate days, weeks, and months after you quit drinking.

These articles explain why that happens and provide actionable steps for managing it all.

In the early days of sobriety, cravings can feel really intense. You may also experience some emotional stability that feels overwhelming.

You can get through this tough part. Even if it feels practically impossible and like you might explode from the effort – you won’t. The craving will pass. The emotion will pass, and you’ll be able to keep going.

These resources were created to help you do that:

For some people, quitting alcohol is the beginning of a gray period. They get past the early days, the withdrawals, and start to get a handle on their cravings.

But life has lost its luster.

They don’t know why, but they just feel blah. Nothing sounds interesting. They may isolate themselves from others.

In short, sobriety isn’t delivering on the promise of a happier, more vibrant life and they don’t know what to do about it.

If that’s you right now, please know that it is normal. There’s a reason for it, and you won’t feel like this forever.

These articles explain what’s going on.

There are a few things that I found extremely helpful on my last and final attempt to quit drinking: finding a community, reading sobriety memoirs, listening to podcasts and TED Talks, writing, and counseling.

Here’s where I would start:

Here’s the thing. You can be the most well-researched, well-prepared person in the world, but this whole quitting drinking thing is still going to be hard.

We live in an age where we are addicted to comfort and allergic to discomfort. Quitting alcohol is going to push you way outside of your comfort zone.

You are going to surprise yourself with what you can do. But you’ll also challenge yourself. And sometimes you might even let yourself down.

All of this is part of the process.

For those days when you need to hear the harsh truth of what you’re doing, these articles can help.

Relationships (of all kinds) are hard. Navigating your social life and relationships with other people in early sobriety is challenging, especially if alcohol plays a central role in them. Here’s how to navigate common obstacles:

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Handling Relapse and Setbacks

At some point in this journey, there’s a chance you might relapse, have a setback, and/or have to start over.

In fact, nearly 70% of people who get treatment for Alcohol Use Disorder relapse in the first year. Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean 70% of all people who quit drinking relapse within the first year. This is the data for people with diagnosed AUD.

And as we know, there are loads of people who exist on a spectrum of problematic drinking patterns and habits.

So I don’t want you to feel like you’re destined to fail, but I also want you to stay vigilant. Quitting alcohol is really hard. There may be a time you mess up, and to be successful at this long-term, you’re going to need a game plan to get back on track as soon as possible.

These resources are designed to help you do that.

Sadly, relapse is incredibly common among people who want to quit drinking. But why? These articles are great starting for understanding the cycle of relapse and how we get stuck in it.

Quitting alcohol is really hard and sometimes we make things harder on ourselves. In these moments, it’s always helpful to learn from other people’s mistakes. Here are all the mistakes I’ve made and what I learned along the way.

Staying Sober and Feeling Good About It

Tackling the initial days and months of sobriety successfully is a huge. It’s a powerful step in the right direction and one of the hardest things many of us will ever do. You should feel proud of your accomplishment!

But sobriety, much like fitness, health, and anything else worth doing is a long-term commitment. You gotta keep at it.

What “keeping at it looks like” will change and evolve as you do. The following resources are designed to help you do just that.

Staying sober long-term requires effort and there are plenty of challenges and new situations to navigate along the way. These resources can help you do just that.

A successful sobriety involves taking care of yourself. This means prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Once you get some solid sober time under your belt, you may find you’re ready to enter the next phase of the healing process.

Here are a few places to start:

Sobriety requires us to wrestle with big questions. These are some of the big questions that I’ve encountered along the way, and my best attempt to answer them.

The following articles chronicle various thoughts, musings, and experiences that I encountered along my sobriety journey. These are good articles to read when you want to hear other people’s stories.

The holidays can be triggering times for people who have quit or are trying to quit drinking, for a variety of reasons.

Sometimes it’s the festive atmosphere that makes people feel like they’re missing out on something by not drinking alcohol. Other times the holidays are lonely and isolating, which also sparks the urge to drink.

Whatever you’re wrestling with, these resources can help you navigate the holidays without succumbing to internal and external pressure to drink.

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staying sober and feeling good about it

When A Loved One Struggles With Drinking

This is dedicated to friends, family, and other loved ones who have someone in their lives who is struggling with drinking. It’s a resource hub that I hope to grow and develop further in the future.

Whether you are supporting someone who is actively trying to quit drinking or have someone in your life who drinks too much and isn’t getting help, I hope you’ll find value in the resources here.

If you’re struggling right now, feel stuck, or don’t know what to do next, talk therapy can help. Getting started with BetterHelp is easy!

  • Answer a few questions.
  • Get matched with a licensed therapist.
  • Schedule your sessions.

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What happens next?

First, bookmark this page and come back to it as often as you need. Then, it’s time to take action.

If you’ve read through the different sections of this roadmap and have decided it’s time to take that first step toward an alcohol-free life, we’re ready to support you!

Request to join our Soberish Private Facebook Group. Please answer all of the questions, or you will be stuck in Facebook purgatory. This is how I ensure the group serves its intended purpose and isn’t overrun with bots and people trying to sell you stuff.

As great as our group is, you’re going to need “in real life” support as well. If it’s available to you, consider reaching out to a mental health specialist or counselor with experience in alcohol and substance abuse counseling (even if you don’t feel like you fit the classic definition).

I’ve done BetterHelp in the past and had a lot of success with it. If your insurance-backed options are limited or don’t work with your schedule, this is a great option.

You can also consider attending a traditional in-person or virtual recovery group like AA or SMART Recovery.

No matter what you choose, commit to reaching out to someone as a starting point. So many people try to go this alone.

I tried and failed for about three years to quit drinking. It wasn’t until I connected with the sober community and opted into an accountability system that things changed for me, and I hear the same from multiple members of our group.

And if you’re still questioning your drinking habits, I have a helpful quiz that can give you further insights.

Take the AUDIT:

The following quiz is called the AUDIT, which is short for Alcohol Use Disorders Identification Test. It’s used by medical professionals to assess your risk for alcohol dependence. Curious about how your drinking habits stack up? Take the assessment.

This is not an official medical diagnosis nor is it medical advice. Rather this is for informational purposes only. If you have any questions or concerns, share your results with your doctor.

Welcome to your Alcohol Use (AUDIT) quiz

1. 
1. How often do you have a drink containing alcohol?

2. 
How many units of alcohol do you drink on a typical day when you are drinking?

A unit of alcohol is one standard drink. Examples of one standard drink include:

  • 12 oz can of beer with about 5% alcohol
  • 5 fl oz of wine (roughly 12% alcohol)
  • 1.5 fl oz shot of spirits like vodka, rum, or whiskey (about 40% alcohol)

3. 
How often have you had 6 or more units if female, or 8 or more if male, on a single occasion in the last year?

4. 
How often during the last year have you found that you were not able to stop drinking once you had started?

5. 
How often during the last year have you failed to do what was normally expected from you because of drinking?

6. 
How often during the last year have you needed an alcoholic drink in the morning to get yourself going after a heavy drinking session?

7. 
How often during the last year have you had a feeling of guilt or remorse after drinking?

8. 
How often during the last year have you been unable to remember what happened the night before because you had been drinking?

9. 
Have you or someone else been injured as a result of your drinking?

10. 
Has a relative or friend or a doctor or another health worker been concerned about your drinking or suggested you cut down?